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Saving Our Families

We all have free will. It takes a strong mind to admit when that free will is under attack. Philosophers have predicted for centuries that what is going on currently would happen one day. They hypothesized that the only way that the wealthy could ultimately overtake the masses would be by handicapping our free will through the spread of misinformation, and by chemically pacifying us.
Do you know that sugar has an almost identical effect on the brain as cocaine, and that it is just as addictive? Do you know that in World War Two massive amounts of fluoride were poured into the water supplies of concentration camps, for the purpose of pacifying the captives? Are you aware that there are many countries in the world that consume far more cigarettes per capita that the U.S. and yet we have the second highest rate of lung cancer deaths in the world, higher even than China?
Just this week, I lost my second family member to type-two diabetes. I have other family members who are at high risk …

Please Stop Telling Them To Have Kids (Adult Language)

When most people start into parenting, they have heard that teenagers are a pain in the ass to live with. They have some idea about the terrible twos. They know that babies poop a lot, and that potty training is hard, and that they may be looking at losing some sleep.
Knowing that batch of facts might make you maybe one percent prepared to be a parent. Basically, becoming a parent gives a person the potential to screw up worse than they have ever screwed up in their entire lives. People are doing it too, and they are doing it every day.
It could be said that it is a terrible thing for me to do, to make people wary of becoming parents by telling them that there is a possibility that they will screw their kids up for life, but I feel like it is my damn responsibility, as it is the responsibility of every good parent out there.
Screwed up people are committing horrible crimes, and corrupting our government, and raising more screwed up children. I have to teach my kids to look out for th…

10 Movies To Watch With Your Daughters

There are very few movies out there that make the cut when it comes to feminist approval. This is not a list of them, and no, I am not going to recommend that you make your daughter watch Thelma And Louise.
These movies do not all promote the healthiest of female body types, they are not all void of male characters, and yes, many of them do involve quite a bit of sexuality. So, it is up to you to decide when you feel that your own daughter is mature enough to handle these themes.
These movies are movies that I would not want my daughters to leave home without having watched. Some of them empower, some warm the heart, and some teach great life lessons. They all have something special to offer to young women.
1.Mulan (1998). Of course number one is Mulan! It is pretty much the best Disney has ever pulled off. I have watched it with my daughters more times than I can count. It teaches individuality, responsibility, ingenuity, camaraderie, loyalty, and self-love. I honestly do not know w…

Empath Issues

It isn’t that difficult to explain the condition. It is just a little hard for people who don’t feel it strongly to understand it. I think that all human beings are probably born with varying levels of subliminal empathy, and I also believe that our life experience teaches the majority of us to shut it off for reasons of self-preservation.
In my own history, I believe that my empathy was strong in my childhood, but that it was so confusing and overwhelming to me that I learned to shut it down quickly. Then, as I grew older and more comfortable with the control that I had over my environment, I allowed the ability to strengthen.
When I had my children, it blossomed ridiculously, and it has grown to the point that I consciously feed it. Empaths eat up positive emotion and we are hit very hard with negative emotion. We don’t really have to hear any words: we can sense the emotions rolling right off of people.
I also passed on a pretty intense case of it to my older daughter. We had hous…

Until There Is Nothing Left

I remember being in junior high school and traveling with a church group to perform in their musical one year. I had a few girlfriends in the group, although now, looking back, I can’t report any of our interactions back then as being very friendly.
I remember how we stopped at this famous dairy on our last leg of the trip that had its own ice cream parlor. Our leaders told us to order whatever we wanted, and many of the boys ordered sundaes piled with scoops and scoops of ice cream.
My three friends and I finally decided on chocolate malts, and they were enormous when they were delivered to our table. There were many exclamations about how there was no way in the world that any of us could possibly finish all of that. So we sat there, all four of us, sipping at one of the most delicious chocolate malts that I have ever tasted in my life.
The tension was thick as we all carefully monitored the levels of the four glasses, each working to make sure that we were not the one left havi…

So Frigging Spoiled

One of the things that my husband and I were the most surprised to discover after we became foster parents was the fact that almost every single one of our boys were terribly spoiled in a material sense. We lived in a very rural area with an extremely poor economy, and yet I remember one year when all three of our boys received the newest popular gaming system that was out on the market for Christmas.
Alternatively, our boys were neglected in every other arena possible. They weren’t given enough discipline, nor attention, nor encouragement, nor love. Every single one of them had shoes that cost ten times what mine did, however. Because they all had such an excess of material things, which was probably happening due to the guilt that their parents were looking to assuage for being so bad at parenting, they had little to no respect for the things that they did have.
My two oldest boys still remember, after a couple of weeks of me battling them to pick up their clothes off of the floor…

Give It Twenty-Four Hours (Adult Language)

I am going to ask you to do something extremely difficult here, but I think that if you can manage it, you will find that it is an extremely helpful technique in keeping the peace. I am speaking specifically to partnerships here, but the information is applicable to many different types of relationships as well. Of course, this advice could never apply to a situation where there is a conflict involving someone being in any immediate danger.
My husband and I have been together for fourteen years. We are very blessed to be of like mind in many ways, and we have not had to go through many large conflicts in the course of our marriage. That being said, fourteen years has still given me a hell of a lot of experience in how best to deal with conflicts when they arise, as they always will, in a marriage or partnership.
This is the common course of a conflict from my side of the situation: Something occurs or I learn something that upsets me. I first usually become catastrophically fearful a…

Death To Television

There is this amazing quote from someone back in the forties or fifties, which I have looked for and haven’t been able to find for years. It speaks to how television is either going to eventually destroy our society or be a beacon of light in its informational power. Of course, I believe that we have proven that it is pretty irretrievable from the dark side at this point. A family member of mine, which is tragic because my family still farms corn and soybeans, had put up a link to a bit that was done on the Jimmy Kimmel show the other day where they went out in public and sought out undereducated people who still chose to avoid GMO’s but could not explain their motivations well, and made fools out of them on TV. After explaining in detail how GMO’s are actually going to take out our entire population if they are not gotten rid of soon, I mentioned that Jimmy’s cronies would really loathe me because I know exactly how to defend my point. Then it occurred to me that I also know exactly…

Some Reasons To Consider Not Having Kids (Adult Language)

I have written before about how I think it is really horrible the way that society likes to make all women feel as if they are missing out if they don’t have children. It is a ridiculous and an old fashioned notion that needs to be put in its place, in the past. I adore my kids, and my foster kids as well, and nothing has been as rewarding in my life as being a parent, but that just doesn’t mean that it is for everyone. I am a huge admirer of adult couples who are self-aware enough to make the decision that parenting just isn’t for them. I believe that it is a mature, rational, socially conscious decision to make, and I become quite upset when I hear people putting pressure on these couples to reproduce. So I wanted to list some reasons why a person might not want to become a parent.
1.The fear is absolutely immeasurable. From the moment I became pregnant, I started to worry, and I am actually a relatively easygoing person. In pregnancy; I was worried about coming in contact with any…

Black Bean Egg Scramble

This is a meat-free and gluten-free meal that is fast and easy to make. The best part is that the kids never fail to gobble it down. This recipe serves four to five people.
2 tbsp. olive oil 8 eggs 1 medium sweet onion, diced 2 cloves garlic, minced 1 can diced tomatoes 1 small can green chilies 2 cans black beans, rinsed and drained 1 tsp. cumin 1 tsp. red pepper flakes 1 tsp. paprika 1 tsp. coriander 1 tsp. black pepper salt to taste

gluten-free corn tortillas colby or jack cheese vegetable oil sour cream
In a large skillet cook the eggs in the olive oil, over medium heat, stirring constantly, for three minutes. Add the onions and garlic and continue to cook the mixture for three more minutes. Add the chilies, tomatoes, beans and spices, and continue cooking, stirring often, for ten more minutes.
In a separate skillet, heat a small amount of oil over medium heat and lightly brown the tortillas on both sides. Add cheese, and when it has melted, fold the quesadillas in half and serve…

Caramelized Mushroom And Onion Brandy Cream Shells

This is a meatless, gluten-free, and refined sugar-free recipe. It is quick and easy to prepare and very hearty. It makes a great comfort food for cold weather.
16oz. gluten-free shell pasta
1 large sweet onion, halved and thinly sliced 8 oz. white mushrooms, rinsed, and thinly sliced 1 stick unsalted butter 1 tbsp. gluten-free flour 1 c. white wine 1 c. brandy 1 c. heavy cream 1 tsp. black pepper salt to taste
parmesan cheese
Prepare the pasta shells according to their directions reserving a small amount of the water when you drain the shells (this will prevent the sauce from becoming too thick).
In a large sauté pan, cook the onions and mushrooms in the butter, over medium heat, stirring often, until they are slightly browned, (this will take ten to fifteen minutes). Sprinkle the mushrooms and onions with the gluten free flour, and continue cooking for two minutes, stirring constantly. Add the wine and the brandy and continue cooking, stirring constantly, until the mixture begins t…

Mediterranean Pizza

This is a gluten free, refined sugar free, and meatless pizza. It is also a pizza that is meant to be eaten with a fork. In this recipe, I actually made two small pizzas, and one large pizza, to serve a total of eight people. For one pizza, use only one package of gluten free pizza crust mix, and pound of shredded mozzarella. There will be extra sauce left over, and that can be reserved for pasta, or for a dipping sauce.
1-2 16oz. packages Bob’s Red Mill Gluten Free Pizza Crust (Eggs and olive oil will be needed for the crust)
1 medium sweet onion, diced 2 cloves garlic, minced 2 tbsp. olive oil 2 15oz. cans tomato sauce 1 6oz. can tomato paste ½ c. red wine 1 tsp. balsamic vinegar 30 oz. (2 cans) water 1 tsp. black pepper 1 tsp. red pepper flakes 1 tsp. coriander 1 tsp. paprika 1 tsp. basil 1 tbsp. oregano salt to taste
1-2 lb. grated mozzarella cheese chopped sundried tomatoes thinly sliced red onions sliced Kalamata olives feta cheese

For the sauce, sauté the onion and garlic in t…