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10 Reasons To Take Your Kids To SeaWorld

My kiddos have pretty much been raised at the park in Orlando. As it started out, when my daughter was three and the twins were five, it was one of the only places that I ever got out with the kids. The experiences that we have had there, and the things that we have learned together, are beyond value to our family. I struggle a lot with the unfounded criticism about the parks; they literally wound me emotionally, because our park makes up such a monumental portion of our family’s history. If you haven’t had a chance to visit one of the parks before, here are some reasons that it is an experience not to be missed.
1.The beauty. From the landscaping to the architecture to the truly stunning creatures, the beauty to be found in the parks is unsurpassed. Even if we are not engaged in a show or an exhibit, I simply love to walk the park and look around. I never fail to notice something new and beautiful. 2.The effort. SeaWorld is making a big effort to reduce the waste that they produce. Th…

20 Confessions Of A Stay At Home Mom

I have friends praise me and tell me how amazing it is that I home school my kids, and what a great mother I am. Staying at home with three kids who are close in age is a true challenge, so I appreciate the support. Everyone might not think that it is all as idyllic as it seems if they were to spend a day with us, however. Here is a peek into my awesome, stay at home life.
1.My eleven-year-old son still does not know how to tie his shoes. For one thing, we live in Florida, and he rarely wears shoes with laces. Every time that I have tried to teach him, he gets frustrated, so I just figure that it isn’t important and he will learn when he is ready. Who cares? 2.As for my shoes: twice in the past year I have worn shoes out in public that were not flip flops and they came unglued from old age and non-use and I threw them in the garbage and went home barefoot. 3.Even though I am working on two novels, I sometimes write maybe one or two sentences in a day. I am pretty regular at getting my b…

Couples Are Hilarious

I spotted this couple at Sea World and I had to take their picture. No faces: so I think it is okay. They are all florescent pink shoes, and matchy-matchy, and little tiny shorts. I love it! I don’t know how some women talk their partners into wearing matching outfits. It isn’t really my thing, but I still don’t know how they do it. I have buddies who I think would just drive away and lie low for a while if they knew that was what their wife had planned. But then, I think that a lot of the behaviors that we fall into as pairs are things that we would have sworn would never happen to us when we were single.
I used to smoke a cigarette or two on a given evening, but I finally stopped purchasing them altogether because whenever I had a pack my husband would just smoke them all, and I didn’t think that it was good for him. He wouldn’t buy them often on his own so I just stopped so that he would stop, and I was blown away by the fact that he didn’t even find the whole situation ridiculous…

Wellness Under Attack

As Americans we live in this beautiful country with so much opportunity and so many resources, and I believe that it is an absolute travesty that almost our entire population is fighting a daily battle for our own wellness. I spent the majority of my life not understanding this fact. It was not until my children were born, that I began to uncover reality after reality about how the people and the systems that we trust to keep us well are actually doing the opposite. Profit is more highly valued than people in our country today. Even the people who are aware of this problem are often so entrenched in its complicated system that they cannot help but contribute to it. I believe that we can actively turn it around as a society, but it is going to take a lot of work, and we have a hell of a Goliath to fight.
A friend of mine has a family member who is severely overweight and eats a horrible diet. She has gotten to the point where her weight gives her problems with her knees and she has tr…

Everybody Has A Hard Luck Story

It is a line from one of my favorite books by Tom Robbins. The character in the story that proclaims it is dying of rectal cancer. I read the book for the first time almost twenty years ago now, and it has always been very important to me. This specific line in particular; all through my life, I have never seen it disproved. I mean, unless there are a bunch of people out there living super idyllic lives that I have never managed to bump into…everyone that I know has gone through their own sort of hardship or lived through some sort of hell. It is a really important reason for all of us to try and be gentle with other human beings, and to always attempt to give them space to speak their truth. The things that people I know have lived through range from the heartbreaking to the truly un-believable. I have been told some of these stories by people that I had barely even met who chose to open up to me. In the end though, it seems that the difficult things we go through, never fail to mak…

Vegetable And Black Bean Tacos

This is a fast and easy meal to put together, and it is healthy as well. This recipe is free of refined sugar, gluten, and meat, and the cheese can be substituted to make it vegan as well.

4 tbsp. olive oil 1 sm. red onion, peeled and thinly sliced 1 sm. sweet onion, peeled and thinly sliced 2 cloves garlic, peeled and minced 2 roma tomatoes, sliced 8 oz. white mushrooms, stems removed, rinsed and sliced 1 green bell pepper, seeds removed and thinly sliced 2 cans black beans, rinsed and drained 1 tsp. cumin 1 tsp. chili powder 1 tsp. turmeric 1 tsp. cayenne pepper 1 tsp. black pepper 1 tsp. coriander salt to taste

shredded cheese shredded lettuce salsa (Make sure to read the salsa ingredients to ensure that there is no added sugar. Classic Pace salsa is sugar free.) taco shells

In a large skillet sauté the vegetables and spices in the olive oil, over medium heat, for fifteen minutes. I add in the bell peppers at ten minutes so that they stay crunchy. Heat the taco shells in the oven …

In Her Shoes

Have you ever been instructed to put on an oversized hooded sweatshirt, and pull it tightly over your face so that you wouldn’t attract any attention, even though you were accompanied by two big guys?
As a child did you watch your friend’s mother burst through your front door in tears and run to the bathroom to vomit because she just discovered that the man she was sleeping with was married?
Did you decide to stay at home when you first got pregnant because of the reasoning that you could probably never make as much money as your husband, and because you had boobs?
Did you allow yourself to be sexually molested by a twenty two year old man at sixteen because you didn’t know any better, and because you appreciated the attention?
Did your best friend from high school become a victim of date rape in the first month that she went away to college?
Have you attempted to console a friend as she broke down over the possibility that she might never be able to have children as the result of a …

Functional Anorexia

an·o·rex·i·a noun: anorexia
a lack or loss of appetite for food (as a medical condition). an emotional disorder characterized by an obsessive desire to lose weight by refusing to eat.

I have been working up to writing this for a while now. I have a lot of difficulty with labels, and additionally with admitting my own struggles, because the voice in my head that tells me my own pain is nothing compared to what others in this world suffer is very loud. The thing is that this is really important, and I believe that I have been through it for a very good reason, and that reason is my voice. I don’t hear anyone talking about it much, and certainly not very loudly, so I have decided that it just might be my place to scream it from the rooftops.
Rewind to about eight years ago; my youngest daughter was over a year old, and I still weighed over two hundred pounds. It isn’t hard to explain why: I became pregnant with her when my twins were six months old. They had breastfed for an entire year, so…

The Mommy Competition (Adult Language)

Not to beat an old story to death, but my husband and I were planning on having one biological child, and then adopting after that. We found out that we were pregnant with twins about a week before our twins were born, and then six months later, we discovered that I was pregnant with our daughter. Against the advice of the urologist, my husband had his vasectomy done before she was born. We were blessedly living with my mother at the time, so even though she and my husband both worked full time, they worked opposite shifts, and I had some much needed help with my three children under three. It is all a blur today, and I am eternally grateful that I managed to keep all three of them healthy, and happy, and alive.
Consequently, I had far too much survival going on in each and every day of my life back then to put an ounce of effort into thinking about socializing, or play dates, or tracking down a mommy group. Facebook wasn’t really running with all of its glorified popularity yet eith…

Inner Child Abuse

We all have small children living inside of us and it is a fact that I believe the majority of the population fails to notice. We neglect to recognize how prominent these little spirits are in the behaviors and the emotions we experience in our daily lives. Abuses and traumas that we have endured as young human beings travel with us throughout our entire lives. Things that made us deliriously happy when we were six years old often continue to provide us the same joy at the age of forty. If we consider the people that we know who love to play and have fun, who are curious and delighted by new discoveries in a childlike manner; we will almost always find that they had particularly happy childhoods.
So here is a question: Do you treat yourself the same way that you would treat little you? Or if you have children, do you treat yourself the same way that you treat your kids? Do you make sure that you get three square meals a day? Do you reward yourself for your successes? Do you attempt …

Welcome To Oz

I watched the documentary Fed Up with my kids last night. I spent the whole ninety minutes crying my eyes out, but then, it is a story that I can relate to pretty damn closely. I was amazed and proud to observe that all three of my children were glued to the entire film. There were a few things about the information and the way that it was presented that I did not agree with, but for the most part the documentary was incredibly accurate, and in its accuracy; intensely maddening. My family and I stopped eating refined sugar over six months ago, now. The choice was not made because any of us have any obesity issues, but because of the state of my and my youngest daughter’s teeth. and because of the research that I have done on modern dentistry. Needless to say, I cannot imagine how I would feel watching this film eight months ago.
My grandfather died as a result of complications from type two diabetes. I currently have another family member who is near to losing his eyesight from the s…