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Ten Things To Stop Giving A Crap About (Adult Language)

Really, try it, and I can guarantee that you will start feeling better.
1.How your generosity is received. I have friends who stress themselves out endlessly over the things that they do for other people, and their perception of what other people do for them in return. It is a battle that can never be won. None of us can ever expect that the gift we give of ourselves will be appreciated the way that we want for it to be. Giving takes courage and faith and that is why it is important for us to do it over and over again. Learning to let go of what we choose to give, leaving not a single string attached, is a great challenge in life. Remembering that the universe will ultimately keep everything in balance, whether or not we are able to see it, can provide great comfort. 2.What other people think of you. This is a gigantic challenge for me, and honestly it has been lessening year by year as my children get older. I don’t think that society properly addresses how strongly and fully new moth…

Time To Move On (Adult Language)

It was not the most fun experience of my life to discover that I am a completely fucking gullible fool. It is completely true though. I am thirty-seven years old, and it has taken me this long to figure it out. I cannot count the number of hours of my life that I have spent hungry and straining to go a little longer before eating, and this was going on before I was twelve. I cannot begin to count the dollars that I have put towards make-up even though I am a relatively frugal person, but it always made a lot of sense to me that I had vary pale coloring, so it was vital that I color my eyes and cheeks and lashes so that they would stand out. I have bought bras that would make my boobs stand up tall and proud, because that is how they are supposed to look, heels that make me look taller, and my legs look longer, because short legs just aren’t attractive. Lord only knows how much money I have spent on clothing, jeans designed to make me look thinner, a hundred different little black dre…

Twenty Things A Woman Like Me Finds Very Sexy About A Man (Adult Content)

1.Hands. Oh my God, hands. I seriously believe that they are the sexiest part of a man’s body. Therefore, when men do things with their hands; work with them, talk with them, do things with them that they might prefer using their penis for…we like it a lot. 2.Honesty. This cannot be revisited enough. The number one ingredient in good sex is trust. We trust people who we know are always honest, thus honesty is sexy. 3.Man smell. Seriously, hygiene is very important, but I have discovered over the years that I have a really strong distaste for cologne. A man’s natural scent mixed with a little good clean soap smells far, far, sexier. 4.

Twenty Things A Woman Like Me Does Not Find Sexy About A Man (Adult Content)

1.You Kissing Animals. Seriously, I know that there is a whole thing going on in popular culture, with big sexy men being crazy about their pets, but I do not want to see anyone kissing an animal on the mouth. They lick their butts; it is gross, period. 2.Groups of men getting half naked together. I think it is simply because the behavior is so transparent. I personally happen to find two men kissing rather sexy, but when you guys are purposely hanging out together and getting sweaty for the sole purpose of attracting female attention…I just find it gross. Go get a job at a male strip club, those women love it. 3.Grown men who play an excessive amount of video games. Pretty much this means more than thirty minutes in a twenty-four hour period. It is not good for anything, it doesn’t accomplish anything, and you are just sitting there wasting time. 4.Your big environment destroying, gas guzzling, land boat that you call a truck. Unless you actually ranch, or work construction, or regular…

Stuff About Sleepovers

The purpose of this is not to terrify anyone, but definitely to get parents thinking. As parents we must strive to assess people as individuals when we trust them with the care of our children: not by their job, or their social status, or any other singular thing. My husband and I have been cautious to the extreme when it comes to leaving our kids in the care of other adults. They had not been left in the care of anyone besides a grandparent before my youngest was four years old, and at that point we worked up the courage to leave them with my husband’s best friend for an evening. We obviously trust the man immensely, but when you expose yourself openly to all of the information that is out there you can experience physically difficulty entrusting the safety and well being of your child to other people. When my mother and grandmother wanted to have my daughter stay at a hotel with them for one night I had the first panic attack of my life…physical sickness…and this was my mother and …

The Power Of Willful Ignorance

I watched a woman say these words in a speech a few moments ago and nothing could be more true...willful ignorance is insanely powerful. Willful ignorance is the reason that good German people allowed their neighbors to be dragged off by the Nazis in the middle of the night. It is the reason that American people choose to believe our homeless are lazy and irresponsible instead of facing the reality that their situations have arisen because of widespread mental illness and cooperate greed. It is the reason that you will pick up a steak on your way home from work tonight, not bothering to find out where it came from, because you just don’t want to know. The truth is too disgusting.
I have gone on about the meat industry quite a bit and my goal here is not to do that. I love to eat meat, I will state that again, but the example that comes from our consumption of factory meat is so powerful when it comes to explaining willful ignorance that I want to use it. Out of ALL of the many, many,…

Simply Give Flowers

My husband and our close friend brought me an orchid and a bromeliad for Mother’s Day this year. My husband is a very brave man. I am a non-practicing florist (I worked at my parents' design school years and years ago), and for a man to bring home flowers to a well-educated florist is a scary endeavor. Even if I keep it to myself, he can usually be prepared for some sort of speculation about his purchase when he brings me flowers, and we haven’t stayed in one neighborhood long enough yet for me to just point him in the direction of a local florist who will make sure that my husband always gets it right. He did awesome with the orchid this year though. I was very happy.
In modern society a large majority of people underestimate the power of flowers. If you have the time, stop and do an experiment: put fresh flowers in a room where there weren’t any before, and observe how differently the room feels with the addition. Flowers can make a space feel more alive, more vibrant and organ…

Puke

There are a lot of directions that I can go with this story. I have a pretty vast and multifaceted history with vomit…I have three children after all. I was going to go into the less humorous, sort of sad personal history that I have with throwing up and not throwing up. Don’t worry, this is something that I live with every day, and I have found a way to come to terms with it, and even to make light of my situation. I reached out to my sister in law yesterday, because aside from my father, she is the only person I know who can really understand my relationship with nausea and vomiting. She knows lots and lots of people who understand it though, because she works with kids who are fighting cancer and other terrible diseases, and those courageous kiddos endure a whole lot more nausea and vomiting along with countless other pains, than most of us can even imagine.
My frequent bouts of nausea and vomiting aren’t caused by anything life threatening. I am gluten intolerant, but I did not l…