Being a writer, I sometimes have to take a step back and remind myself to go easy on me. We all have our own inner critics, and it is easy for me to find myself bullying myself over what I am actually accomplishing. After all, the only thing that I am actually doing is just writing about shit, right? I type words into my computer about taking action, and changing things that abso-fucking-lutely must be changed, but all I am really doing myself is standing here and typing. There is not a lot of actual action going on…or is there?
When I let myself get critical, I am forgetting something very vital, and that is the natural course of action. Thinkers inspire writers, writers inspire speakers, and speakers inspire those who find their greatness in taking action. It is absolutely critical that each and every one of us know where our strengths lie in this natural progression of positive change. For instance, I forget that when I stand in front of my computer contemplating the idea that I am not affecting any action in the world, I am actively raising three well balanced, highly advantaged children. They may grow up to be great thinkers, or writers, or speakers, or even great activists, but no matter what they choose to become, I know that they will have a positive effect on their community and the world. Contributing to the upbringing of three globally conscious citizen of the world is a hell of an important action after all. It is hilarious how easily we can lose sight of these sorts of things.
When I think back to when my children were little, and all that I could manage to do was parent them and keep us all alive, I remember the looks on peoples’ faces when they asked me what I did, and I told them that I was stay at home mom. I got a very trained placating smile from almost every single person when they asked me that question, which I still find absolutely heartbreaking. I am as perfectly proud of what I did back then as I am of what I do now; to be quite honest I believe that it is significantly more important. Now, when people ask me what I do and I throw out that big fancy novelist word, and their faces light up, and they have all sorts of questions to ask me…it is sort of even more heartbreaking. Being a great mom to me: is the first step in the natural course of creating a world that is not filled with assholes…so from my perspective it is a pretty damn important job. I wish people could respond to my declaration of being a stay at home mom with the same enthusiasm as they do to my being an author. Believe me, the first job is a hell of a lot harder.
I think that it would greatly benefit all of us to wake up each day, and after thinking about how grateful we are for all of the many blessings that we have in our lives, remind ourselves just how much we matter for the part that we play in the natural course of action. No one is insignificant for his or her individual strengths. No strength has any greater value than any other. We were all given special talents for a very particular reason. Most importantly, we all have different abilities because nothing is ever going to happen until we can all prove that we are able to work together to make positive change happen. Other people have done it before, and paved the way for us today, and all we really have to do is follow in their footsteps while we add in some innovation along the way. We all play a part, we all matter, and nothing that any of us do would have the same impact if we were all relying on the same talents at once. So if all of us can find a way to embrace our own individual strengths and be thankful for them. The action part will follow along naturally.