What Will People Think?!?!
We are part of an intelligent and independent generation; we cannot erase the past though. Even if we have been blessed enough to learn how to eradicate these words from our own vocabulary, and prevent them from being passed on to our children, they still live in the back of our minds. If we didn’t hear our parents say them to us, we heard the words from our older relatives. It was probably grandmother’s daily mantra; she admitted to me that it was the reason she went to church. We no longer live in a society like that, well luckily fewer and fewer of us do, but it can be hard to erase our ancestors’ words from the backs of our minds.
Hundreds of years ago in this very country, and still today in many countries, the mantra was necessary for survival. In our early history women were burned at the stake for losing popular opinion within their communities. I myself would probably have been burned as a witch. I have gotten pretty brave in my writing. I have written about sex, and my menstrual cycle, and breasts, and pornography, and I am fairly positive that I have offended a good handful of people who have read my work. When one of my blogs was published on Positively Positive, I had people ranting and arguing about my comment that prayer can exist outside of religion. I am getting used to criticism, and I should know better than to care about what anyone else thinks of me. And then sometimes I forget…
I have made the decision to get our household off of refined sugar, as well as the refined flours that I have already eliminated from our diet. I surprised myself when I actually spent a few moments trying to figure out how I was going to explain this to some of my friends...some of my friends. How terrible is it that I should be concerned about criticism coming from other people, people who care about me, when I have made a highly informed choice for the better health of my family? Why would anyone who loved my kids and myself believe that I was making a bad choice by eliminating something from our diets that is hurting our bodies? Well, the fact is that some of them will…I will hear things like: “It isn’t a sustainable practice…” or “You should let them enjoy sweets while they are still kids…” and “It isn’t fair to them to take away the sugar…” I know that I will hear these things.
Even though I know that I will hear them, and I know that I don’t ultimately care, I had to take a pause and remind myself that I can handle it. I have been dealing with a whole lot of criticism, for a very long time, since before my children were even born, and it has continued through all of the years of their life. The thing is; holding off the vaccines was wonderful for them, so was having my third child at home, so is home schooling, and going gluten free. When I am faced with the little monster that forces me to question what other people will think, I have to remind myself of all of the times that I made a good choice, even if other people would have preferred me to make a different one. That is what each and every one of us should do. By being unique and making our own choices, choices that work the best for us as individuals and unique families, we reinforce our freedom. I urge each and every person, to trust their own gut, do their own research, follow their own instincts and be a person, not a number. Who cares what people think?