We went over to our friends’ house yesterday for a barbecue. We had not seen them since sometime before Christmas. These friends are like family to us, my husband is their daughter’s godfather. We live in the same city, and it is completely preposterous how much time we had allowed to pass since we had all seen each other. Life is like that though, right? We all get wrapped up in our busy lives, projects, and obligations, and sometimes we leave really truly important things on the backburner…and it is a mistake. All of our kiddos are young, and they are shooting up right before our eyes. We all need to make a valiant effort to spend as much time as we can together before the kids are all grown up and moved away.
We used to live next door to each other, and that made things a whole lot easier, although I have to admit that we have friends in this very neighborhood now, and we have let a couple of weeks pass without seeing them either. It can be especially tricky when we all have big changes happening in our lives, new homes, new, babies, and new jobs all require additional time and attention, and sometimes we have more than one of them going on at the same time. What is important is that we are constantly reminding ourselves of just what is important in our lives, and I believe that one of our number one priorities should be our closest friends. Our true friends are the ones that we rely on, the ones who are able to be there for our own children at the times that we just cant.
Prioritizing is never easy…for me I find that post it notes can help greatly. Or taking some time out of each day to reflect on those that we care about, and determine whether there are relationships that need some attention. We are so connected by technology today, there are so many ways that we can reach out to each other, and all that we have to remember to do is take that step and, send that text, leave that message, or make that call. If we miss out on these opportunities to spend time together as families then we will end up regretting it eventually. I never want to have regrets about neglecting the relationships I have with the people that I care about the most.
Of course, once we all made it happen we had a fantastic reunion yesterday. It is so remarkably good to catch up. Life moves so rapidly today, and changes are happing in the lives of everyone around us. If we don’t stop and take the time to get together we miss out on all kinds of things and it practically takes forever to catch up. I spent almost three hours with one of my friends on the phone the other night, simply because it had been so long since we had gotten an opportunity to talk, and there was really that much built up to talk about. It feels wonderful to know that we are making the effort to strengthen those connections. It is a win-win for everyone involved. Even when we are exhausted at the end of the day, sometimes making that call, and hearing that voice on the other end of the phone can go a long way to make that fatigue disappear. Taking the time to strengthen the bonds of friendship is never time wasted. Reaching out has its own rewards.