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Blessings In Disguise

Blessings In Disguise

My mother-in law once passed on some really wise advice to me. She said that someone told her to pray for grace and never for patience, because if you pray for patience you will simply be gifted with opportunities to learn patience better. It makes a lot of sense. I am also learning over the years, that blessings, the new ones, the ones that teach us and help us to grow into bigger and better human beings, more often than not come in disguise. Sometimes they make us sad, and sometimes they make us frustrated. Sometimes they even make us feel angry and frightened. The best thing that we can possibly do for ourselves in these moments is to find the strength to remember that we are being given a gift. No matter how hard the situation may be at the time, if we can take pause, and attempt to shift our perspective from a state of why is this happening to me? to a state of what is this trying to teach me? we can learn and change, and ease our own growing pains along the way.

Recently I have come to recognize that the universe is really good at reminding me when I happen to stray from my chosen path. The choices we make about how we choose to live our lives, just like anything else that we choose to do, need reinforcement. I remember when we had our wonderful homeopathic doctor in Louisville Kentucky when our babies were little. We saw him about once every two months, and because it was quite a trip to get to his office, and the natural food store was right down the street, we would always do the doctor visit and then go shopping right after. We would typically pick up the foods that we had been forgetting to eat, or the supplements we had been neglecting to take. There was never one single time that we went to visit that doctor, that I wasn’t reminded of something that I had been meaning to do in regards to my family’s health, that somehow I had forgotten to do; someplace where I had backtracked. Not because I meant to neglect our health at all, but simply because I had slipped up. Being healthy is not easy or convenient because our society has not set it up to be that way. Big business does not prosper from health, and that is why we are not a very healthy nation. So, our doctor’s job, for the most part, was guiding us to keep us on a more balanced track.

Now I understand that the universe, or my higher power, is doing the same thing for me day after day. If I am not paying attention to the little nudges that I am receiving to push me in the right direction, I get bigger ones and bigger ones. If I am really unfocused and ignore the direction in which my higher power is pushing me, I eventually get a message that is a glaring flashing sign in my face telling me that I need to change my ways. When things get to that point and I receive the glaring message…it is usually not a fun one, and once I realize what is going on I usually have to take a little time and recover…to lick my wounds so to speak. As long as I can remember that I have the responsibility to recognize the signs when they are small, as long as I can keep sight of the fact that these nudges, though not always particularly welcome, are ultimately good for me, I can feel safe. I can know a sense of peace because I have concrete proof that I am being looked out for and that I matter to the universe. Blessings can be funny that way.


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I actually really dislike Oprah Winfrey as a talk show host and television personality.

I was home with my kids when they were babies and I had her show on a lot. Then at one point I remember her and her friend going into a Walmart and just cracking up over the fact that they were so frigging isolated by their current wealth that they didn’t understand how things worked there. Like the way that the plastic hangers operated or something…

I remember being absolutely disgusted at their behavior. Not only that someone who presents her life story as having grown up in poverty would turn around and make fun of the fact that she doesn’t understand how people who are not as well off as her would live, but additionally to think that her audience is so much less intelligent than she is that not one of us would be offended by her behavior.

Well I was, and I haven’t watched a thing that woman has put out in the past ten years.

I do think she is a brilliant actress though, even so, I couldn’t watch …