Ten Signs That You Are A Grown-Up
This was a Facebook post that I wrote today:
Do you ever stop and think: "Why am I behaving like such a grown-up? Isn't somebody else still taking care of all of this crap?"
It happens to us gradually, and there is no telling when all of the cogs are going to fit into place. Completely regardless of age, relationship status, job status, or whether or not we have children. Here are some of the components that go into being an actual grown-up:
1. We admit our mistakes. If you ever watch the news, you know that there are a lot of politicians of embarrassing age, who have yet to grow up. Maybe that is one of the biggest problems in our country right now; the people who are leading us are immature children. How childish is it to try and pass blame off to the next guy. I actually take pride in my ability to admit my mistakes to others.
2. We do things that we don’t want to do without complaining about it. Ideally, our adult lives are about working into a place where we don’t have to do many things that we don’t want to do, but still. Along the way, we must learn to roll up our sleeves and get the job done. For our benefit, and for that of the people who depend on us.
3. We apologize. Whole-heartedly, and honestly, and without our moms dragging us by our shirt collars. A mature person understands what it feels like to be hurt by someone. We are going to hurt people in the course of our lives. It is inevitable. Adults understand how important it is to convey our regret when we hurt another person. It doesn’t erase the hurt, but it eases it.
4. We take care of ourselves. Whether through, diet and exercise, or spiritual enlightenment, grown-ups realize that we are not immortal. We know that it is important to take care of these bodies that allow us to move through the world, and that the less we take care of them, the more likely that we will be very uncomfortable down the road.
5. We seek to give back. Grown-ups recognize that we want to leave something good behind in the wake of our lives. Truly mature individuals do desire to leave the world, if ever so slightly, a better place than it was when we entered it.
6. We take action. At some point the true adult comes to the realization that they are finally a part of the group that is supposed to fix everything. In youth we put it off as long as possible, believing that inciting true change is someone else’s responsibility. Then one day we wake up and realize that the burden is now upon our shoulders. At that point, we have to decide whether we are going to do something about it or not.
7. We have respect and we show it. As we grow older we develop more of an appreciation for how much work has been put into creating the environment that we exist within. We also cultivate a deeper sense of understanding that as much work as we have done to come this far in our lives; every other person that we share space with has as well. Adults have learned an appreciation for the people and the things that surround them, and we treat them with more care than children do.
8. We are grateful. I do not believe that many grown-ups go through a single day without thanking the gods many times for what we have in our lives. Simply to look at the face of a child or a loved one gives an adult a reason to be grateful.
9. We get back up. Every adult has learned that life usually does not go as planned, and those of us who are really wise have learned that sometimes, those unexpected detours turn out to be really wonderful things. We know that as long as we keep trying we will eventually get to exactly where we need to be.
10. We Love, (the verb). Grown-ups understand that everything wonderful in life requires care and attention. Adults understand that love is not just some magical thing that happens to us. It is a beautiful joy that we must nurture and cultivate in our lives. We have figured out that the more active loving we do on a daily basis; the more love comes back to find us.