One of the Great Guys I Know
I am really blessed to be friends with a lot of really wonderful men. I know that there are a lot of jerks out there somewhere, because women are talking about it all of the time, but I don’t often meet them. Maybe it’s my superpower. I wanted to write about one man in particular, because he is very quietly remarkable. Just knowing that he is out there is a wonderful reason for women not to give up on men.
He has always had a great personality. Always been there to help one of his friends when they were in need, even if they didn’t ask for help. Never a guy to show up empty handed, he is a gentleman and generous beyond words. He has a beautiful daughter who is around ten years old. He adores her. He is divorced from her mother who I met only once. Let’s just say that although she was physically very beautiful, that is the only positive that I can think to say about her. Being a gentleman I have never heard my friend say a negative word about his ex-wife, but I have a feeling that she was not very good to him.
My friend met a woman a few years ago. She has a son who is now around six years old. She was also divorced, and although I cannot say for sure, I have the feeling that she had a pretty rough first marriage. My friend fell instantly in love with her, and with her son as well. We suddenly weren’t seeing as much of him as we used to. Whereas he used to show up to hang out and drink with us adults, as well as bring his daughter over to play with our kids. Suddenly, he was only showing up for the kid events, or to go out and play a round of golf with the guys. When I noticed this, I questioned my husband about it, and he said that he had heard through friends that it made his new girlfriend uncomfortable. So he just changed that part of his life, because he wanted to be with her.
We attended their wedding just about a year ago now. They were one of the happiest couples that I have ever seen get married. They were both absolutely glowing, and the wedding was wonderful. As I said, I don’t know the specific history, but to me their story seems like one of second chances. They both could have been too afraid to try again, but instead it seems like they decided to put everything that they had into making it work the second time around. It is working. I see them sticking together for the long haul. I don’t know my friend’s new wife very well, but if anyone in the world deserves to be blissfully happy, he does, and I imagine that she does too.