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Family Dynamics

Family Dynamics


To the best of my understanding, my children need drama to survive. They have this remarkable

ability to create it at any time, in any place. Sometimes it keeps them entertained when they are

bored and sometimes I can't understand why they are creating it at all, but wherever they go, drama

goes along with them, and I don't know if I am going to live through the next ten years of it. It's like

some bizarre game that they are playing, where they have some sort of ball that they can't let hit the

ground. When one of them calms and becomes a normal, non-freaking-out child once again, another

one of them picks up the metaphorical ball and starts running with it, in full on freak out mode.




I grew up as an only child. It was my mother's desire that I have that life. She had one brother that

was four years younger than she was, and they got along terribly. She wanted for me to have the

solitude that she did not as a child. Unfortunately, I was horribly lonely being an only child. I was the

complete opposite of my mother. I was terribly introverted and independent, and it made

it nearly impossible for me to make friends. My mother would have done very well as an only child.

One of my daughters has almost the exact same personality as my mother, she is constantly

lamenting over the way that her brother and sister harass her. She is a wonderful, lovely child, except

when it comes to her syblings. Around them she becomes a wild screaming banshee.



I believe that I turned out pretty well, all things considered. It did take me an unusually long time to

develop my social skills. I believe that if I had grown up in a household with other children I
                
 probably would have learned those skills much earlier on. Even though my children struggle to get 

along with each other on a daily basis, I do believe that they are cultivating teamwork skills that will 

be incredibly valuable to them in the future. Maybe mom is the one who suffers the most in this

whole scenario. It will be well worth it to me when my children make huge achievements in group

endeavors...I just have to figure out how to survive in the meantime. It always amazes me when I

come to a new realization of what us parents are willing to endure for the sake of our children. Pats

on backs, moms and dads. You are doing an awesome job!







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