Skip to main content

Support and its Importance


It isn’t always easy to be supportive; sometimes it’s actually pretty difficult. I am talking primarily about partners here; the people that we make a home with…raise children with…spend a life with. If you are one of the lucky ones out there, you started out with two parents to support you, maybe brothers and sisters as well. You had a few grandparents who would always cheer you on, and teachers and coaches. When we grow up and go out on our own, those people may still be around, but they exist in a different capacity. You are an adult now; you aren’t so cute any more. More skeptical criticism makes its way in your direction. The unconditional support becomes conditional. You may find yourself somewhat alone…

I think that we forget how much our partner in life needs our support. Possibly, it may be more important than anything else that we can give to them. It may be the strongest way to show our love. Being a grown up is not easy, we all take a lot of lumps along the way. If we know that there will always be someone at home who believes in us unconditionally, we feel more secure in ourselves. We have more courage to get out there and to succeed.

It is not, once again, always easy to be supportive. I am definitely not saying that anyone should agree with everything their partner does or every move that they ever make. I believe strongly in individuality, and I want for each individual to be one hundred percent themself. We can all find ways. We owe it to ourselves and to each other to try. Sometimes it is not as hard as you think to put the little gestures out there: “Hey you look really nice today. Thank you for filling my car up with gas. That was really great the way that you helped Jenny get through that homework.” See, that’s not so hard, right?

Right after we moved back to Central Florida my husband got three traffic tickets. Three in a row! They had installed a camera at our intersection and he got two tickets two weeks apart, scooting through the left turn light on red. It happened in the exact same spot, and he had already committed the second violation before we even received the first ticket in the mail. After that he got a speeding ticket on his way to work going fifteen over in a thirty-five. UGH! Tickets suck, they are expensive, and we are on a tight budget. I could have yelled and screamed, or ranted and raved. I didn’t, I knew that they were mistakes and so did he. I am sure that he was just as upset with himself as I was about the whole situation, what good would putting him down for it have done anyone?

It is not, finally, always easy to be supportive. It is essential to attempt to do so however. To your, husband, wife, partner, best-friend; you are their one and only, biggest cheerleader. If you aren’t giving them support, they probably aren’t getting any at all. It has been suggested that affairs happen, not because one partner is out there looking for sex, but rather because they are out there seeking the acceptance and support that they aren’t getting at home. Closing up and closing a partner out is a dangerous mistake to make. A simple compliment can be the lead-in to a highly productive conversation. Simple support can do wonders to bring people closer together.

If you are interested in learning more about how you can create more alignment in your relationship, click here to check out our new free eBook:


Popular posts from this blog

20 Things…you learn after moving to Florida.

20 Things…you learn after moving to Florida.
1.There is a big difference between a roach and a palmetto bug. Real roaches are the guys from New York. They infest, they are spooky smart, they are dirty and nasty, and you have to work really hard to get rid of them. Palmetto bugs however, are big and creepy and dumb. You usually see them outside at night and they will fly right at your face. They don’t infest because they are native and they can’t survive in our AC temps. 2.Every public indoor place will always be frigid. Most of your friend’s houses will be as well. I take a sweater with me almost everywhere that I go, and if I forget to I regret it. 3.Outside of weather emergencies, weathermen are superfluous. In the rainy season, which is most of the time, there is an eighty percent chance of rain, every single day. The weather man has no idea what time it will rain, how hard, or for how long, and there is no way for him to predict it. You just have to go out there with your fingers cr…

Phineas and Ferb...the positive cartoon.

Phineas and Ferb
I wrote a story previously that went into my dislike of Sponge Bob; so to be fair I will go into my love of the cartoon Phineas and Ferb. I had been adverse to it before I watched it, because I believed that it was probably like everything else that is geared towards kids of the same age group. It is not. The cartoon is completely unique, and as all great cartoons, it is equally enjoyable for children and adults.
The first thing that caught my attention was the unbridled creativity, and innocent intelligence that the two main characters possess. The boys can do anything; the sky is the limit. I believe that this is such a wonderful message for children. We, as parents, limit our own children more than we think. When I first took my kids to their 4H Lego Robotics club, I was completely blown away. I had no idea that my kids could put some blocks together, plug them into a computer, program them, and create a moving robot. An example of kids who can accomplish anything…

Christmas in Florida

Christmas in Florida
December tenth today and I swam my thirty laps in the pool. It’s pretty chilly, but I don’t really feel it after the second lap. I am so grateful that I am able to keep swimming this late into the season. My body responds much better to swimming than it does to running, and I still get a great cardio work out.
This is our seventh or eighth Christmas in Florida now. To be honest, it wasn’t much of an adjustment for me. I have lived in climates where we got tons of snow. I even graduated from high school in Northern Michigan, but I really don’t miss it. I am a worrier, so snow just makes me think of bad roads and car accidents. I think snow is absolutely gorgeous, but I don’t like the cold. I would be perfectly happy if snow stayed on mountains. I would visit it to ski.
I finally convinced my husband for the first time this year that we really did not need a tree. He is partial to real ones, and I have no real love for artificial trees. Not once in all of the years…